“It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.” — Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy, writing for the majority
The Supreme Court decision for same-sex marriage was made in June. In July, I received an email from these two – two women I have come to know through the years photographing their family – Dana’s daughter’s wedding, their grand kids, even the whole big family a few years back right in this same back yard. One of the arguments given in dissent of the ruling was that “Same-sex couples remain free to live together, to engage in intimate conduct, and to raise their families as they see fit. No one is ‘condemned to live in loneliness’ by the laws challenged in these cases—no one.” – Chief Justice John Roberts I beg to differ. After being in a committed relationship for many years, these two chose to celebrate with a wedding only once it was legal in the eyes of the law. That part is important to them. While they surely weren’t “living in loneliness” (they are surrounded with love and good friends and family), they were still excluded from the right to marry. And you know what? No fair. But now. Now it is finally legal, and they will have a beautiful, intimate celebration of their love next spring. Cheers to that! They make each other laugh, and they hold each other up when times get rough. That is love. A love worth celebrating. And also. Can we just take a second to talk about this yard of theirs? It’s lovely! You’d think this whole session took place at a special garden or something. Nope, it’s their back yard. When I asked them what they’d like to do for their session and where they’d like to go, their response was, “Here. It’s who we are.” They spend their days in their own little paradise – gardening, having a drink by the pool, playing with the pups. It’s a good, good life. And while marriage won’t make any wild waves of change in their day-to-day, it sure is wonderful that they can finally participate in it equally. Lots of joy for these two as they celebrate years of love!
Check out Dana’s daughter’s wedding here!